You can't be what everyone else wants you to be, you just can't! 10.27.14
Don't live your life to match what other people expect of you. You won't be living your life, you will be living every one elses'.
This is a struggle that hits home for me. Growing up in a large family and spending hours and hours in a huge school district surrounded by peers and elders who often have an idea of what you should be made it difficult to decide who I wanted me to be. I didn't really start finding myself until I moved out on my own. I still catch myself in the cycle of seeking other peoples acceptance.
The reality is, you can never be what everyone else expects you to be. You just can't! If you follow one persons example you will inevitably go against another persons example. Set an example for yourself and stick with it. You can be accepted by the entire world, but until you accept yourself you will never find happiness.
On the same note, I realize the importance to not push my expectations onto others. I have been gifted an entire, awesome life that is all my own, a life that should be cherished and appreciated. Let's not get greedy and tell others how to live their lives when we already have our own. When someone asks for help, then you can offer them advice.
This seems like an odd post for a self portrait but my recent decision to cut my hair was what brought these thoughts to realization. I feel that part of the reason I took so long to cut my hair is that I didn't want to change my appearance to much for others. I realize this is silly and that no one told me I couldn't cut my hair, but I know I am not the only one who gets caught in that thought pattern. This idea of having to maintain a consistent image for the sake of others only keeps us from growing into the best versions of ourselves.
I love all you guys, and thank you for reading!
SelfPortraitOct2014Joseph PecoraPennsylvania landscape photographerhazleton art photographerhazleton landscape photographerhazleton portrait photographerj.pecora photographypennsylvaniapennsylvania portrait photographerpennsylvania studio photographerpennsylvania travel photographerstudio portraits